I Filed for Separation

Image Credit: James Orr

Don’t gasp. Separation happens to the best of us all the time. I just went through my 7-year itch with my partner who became increasingly domineering and controlling. I won’t divulge the name of my partner (and no, it is not my husband), but it is the long-term relationship I had with my fitness tracker.

In the beginning, it was wonderful. We got to know each other intimately, and it became a trainer that helped me to be better disciplined as I made my fitness goals to improve my health. But something got messed up along the way. I noticed it but didn’t pay attention to what was happening. It was dictating to me what I should be doing, and I found myself becoming a fitness-tracking zombie. I was roped into its clutches of control, and I didn’t realize I was in too deep.

Free Woman in White Shirt Wearing a Face Mask and Fitness Tracker Stock PhotoImage Credit: Polina Tankilevitch

It authoritatively suggested what my daily intake of drinking a certain amount of water should be, how many miles I should walk, how many calories to burn, how many hours I should sleep but wasn’t getting, and vibrated when I needed to get up each of the 9 hours of active minutes I had to get in each hour. I upgraded to a newer and improved model during our time together. What we had was wonderful, until it began to get dark, like it was angry because I wasn’t listening like I initially did.

Now grant it, this is not a fitness tracker bashing. But like a baby who no longer needs a walker, I am more disciplined, energized, and confident about thinking on my own without my wrist-wearing technology looking over my shoulders! My codependency became an obsession and an addiction. So now, I am kicking the habit, filing for separation, because I am strong enough to walk on with more confidence and greater discipline.

Am I tempted to pick up my tracker and strap it back on? At times I am, but not as often as I thought. Although it was a hard habit to break, I am liberated now, and oh what a feeling that is! Bye-bye birdie!

34 thoughts on “I Filed for Separation

  1. I can wear those things on my body. Even watches tend to stop working on my arm. I suppose it interferes with my magnetic field. It is ok because I still show up where I need to be on time. And, I’m still exercising.

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  2. One of my very best friends’ better half has also been through that trip, after a while or two (maybe actually years) so she declared a little annoyed “I’d rather live with an Italian mother-in-law than this one”. She must know something about it, because she is italian herself (but she actually only have a danish mother-in-law never an italian). πŸ˜€ πŸ™‚

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  3. Girl, we had a love/hate relationship. 😝 She was becoming too much of a dominatrix! 🀣 LMBO Now, I am on my own and perhaps the coloring will return around my wrists. But I have a ton of watches I haven’t worn in 7 years and I am ready to get back to my fashion statements. ⌚⏰⏱ Word!

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  4. I give you a fist bump on that one Kathryn! πŸ€œπŸΌπŸ€›πŸΌ I have been having some weird sensations around my wrists even when I switch up and it was driving me crazy. Then I would be in someplace like a doctor’s office and it just wouldn’t stop vibrating. So I am back to thinking for myself. And like you, I am still showing up where I need to be, when I need to be, drinking my water as I should, and still exercising. πŸ˜πŸƒπŸ½β€β™€οΈβŒšπŸ€—πŸ’–πŸ₯‚

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  5. Thanks a million Dawn! Girl, I was hooked like a drug addict to that tracker. We only split when I took a bath or washed the dishes. Even when I was outdoors mowing the lawn, I wore it so I could be sure I got my steps in. I initially used it for discipline. But I found that I began getting some weird sensations around my wrist that permeated up my arm. When I took it off, it would stop. So, when it started to become a little abusive, I dropped it like a hot plate! LOL 😜

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  6. You do carry yourself with confidence and discipline, Kymmy. πŸ™ŒπŸ» No need to be controlled by a bossy device. πŸ˜‚ You’ve got this! πŸ’ͺ🏽 My Fitbit died after I swam in the shores of South Carolina. I went through a few days of withdrawals then I realized I did not need it after all. πŸ˜…

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  7. Now Michele, that was true independence after the withdrawals. I got so hooked to watching it control my life that I didn’t realize I was under it’s spell. But my tracker began to veer off to never-neverland at times, and was not performing with accuracy. Frustrating, but problem solved! And as Forrest Gump says, “That’s all I have to say about that!” LMBO πŸ˜‚πŸ˜πŸ€£

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  8. Yeah Rosaliene, these fitness trackers have been around for quite a while now. I was so dependent on it until I didn’t realize how controlling it was. Well honey, not anymore! πŸ€£πŸ˜πŸ˜‚

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  9. Maggie honey, would you believe that eventhough I am not wearing it, I still use the app to keep up with my water intake, and I notice that it is still somehow tracking the calories I burn? Go figure! β“πŸ€”β“πŸ˜²β“

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  10. πŸ€£πŸ˜œπŸ˜‚ LOL, thanks so much for getting it Layla. At first some people thought I was talking about my relationship, but then realized I was talking about separating from my killer fitness tracker! I feel so liberated now. I appreciate your warm literary words my friend. πŸ˜˜πŸ’–πŸ€—

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  11. Wow! Wow! Wow! Wow! Wow! Wow! Dear Kym you are amazing and funny. But don’t worry be happy, sleep you nine hours, eat well, do excersice and have a relaxing time. Don’t let anyone to makes you feel stress… You too excersice your brilliant brain a lot, writing your art.
    Keep happy. Have a lovely and relaxing evening, cheers with tea time!
    Abrazote mi amiga!!!


  12. You are so creative in how you wrote about ditching that controlling force on your wrist! I have a watch/fitness tracker but am pretty good at ignoring it some days 🀣 βŒšπŸ‘€

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  13. “So now, I am kicking the habit, filing for separation, because I am strong enough to walk on with more confidence and greater discipline.” I think it’s so important to examine all things in our life in this context. If we don’t need it or it doesn’t serve our goals anymore, kick it to the curb! This was delightful to read.

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